BREAKING PATTERNS FOR MENTAL HEALTH SEPTEMBER 11TH 2023

“It’s Monday … time to motivate and make dreams and goals happen. Let’s go!”

— Heather Stillufsen

THE RANT: BREAKING PATTERNS FOR MENTAL HEALTH

So, I moved out!
Haha….
Just for the week though. Long story short, I basically told my boys (husband and son) I need a break.
You know, I’m just tired. I’ve been always a label since 15 years old. ALways had long relationships (one year was actually single) but when those ended I soon got into a new relationship. Then got pregnant so then a mom, then got married so then a wife. I’m 35 now and I don’t know who I am right now. All I know is, I am constantly thinking for 3 people everyday. Telling everyone what to do, remembering things for everyone and I’m tired of what I receive.
I receive attitude, no one is doing anything and I find myself picking up slack, not leaving any time for ME. Putting aside, my art and side hustle. So! I’m staying at my dads for a week to not do anything for anyone else but me. I deserve it. My husband has gone away to visit family, and he’s going away to Germany soon. I deserve time away from home too. Even though I’m in the same town ha! It’s been hard to not message them to say “don’t forget…” but no! I need to detach. They can do it right? I spoiled them and I conditioned myself to be this person. I hope to break some of this unhealthy pattern. This week is for me! Hope you guys are doing YOU!

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MUSIC

My co worker was listening to a Lowell playlist and this song came on and I am obsessed.

MOVIES AND SHOWS

BEAUTIFUL DISASTER 2023 (Hulu) * * * * *
Amusing Quirky. The guy is a fighter and the girl looks innocent and goes to college but she has a very secret background that actually makes her dope. They can’t stand each other and yea… cute.

MAYBE I DO 2023 (Hulu) * * * *
Awkward and Funny. Young couple get into a fight about marriage. They bring their parent in the mix and oh boy… how do they know each other already?…. it was cute. Wish it had more story.

PARIS CAN WAIT 2016 (Hulu) *
I guess relaxing? I saw Diane Lane in it and thought I might like it. SO boring.

THE SECRET: DARE TO DREAM 2020(Prime) * * * * *
Hopeful! Yes this was based on the infamous book “The Secret.” I thought i was going to be cheesy and dumb but I actually really really enjoyed it. Had a very dramatic story that caught my attention. I definitely recommend watching it, about looking at thing differently in life.

THE POWER 2023 (Prime) * * * * *
Drama Thriller. I guess this is based on a book. Never read it but this was great to watch. It’s about women all over the world all of a sudden harnessing this electric power that could be for the good of womankind. Obviously, men and certain countries are trying to eliminate this new “threat.”

THE LOST FLOWERS OF ALICE HART 2023(Prime) * * * * *
Drama Miniseries. SOOOOOOO GOOOOOD! It’s about domestic abuse and women sticking together. It’s a great sad journey of a story.

THE FLASH 2023 (Max) * * * *
DC Adventure. I honestly enjoyed the story. We watched it twice. I thought it was a good story. The effects… meh… lacked A LOT! But I didn’t care.

SELLING THE OC (Netflix) * * * *
Reality TV, million dollar houses and drama galore, bring me my wine please.

Some shows I recommend if you have nothing to watch: This Fool, Modern Love

HEALTH AND WELL-BEING

Audio books!
So far I’ve listened to the Untethered Soul which started out great but lead into more religious stuff like the last third of it. The other was The Four Agreements.
What I took from the Untethered Soul was putting a face and giving a name to the other voice in my head. The one that drives me crazy. The detaching helps with learning to try and shut it off. I actually encision myself telling that other person in my head to shut up! But more so understand it’s not really ME, it’s just the mind doesn’t stop.. I don’t know, I recommend it for sure. Take a listen.

The Four Agreements I really enjoyed.
First Agreement: Be impeccable with your word
Second Agreement: Don’t take things personally
Third Agreement: Don’t Make Assumptions
Fourth Agreement: Always do your best.
They sound simple but what he says in detail about each was pretty mind opening for me. These are all things I struggle with. I like how he makes it seems like it is dark magic. I kinda envisioned it all like we live in this world and we all have magic.

MONTHLY SHOUT OUT

I am showing her off again because she just took amazing photos of my candles! Check below.

My coworker has an unique eye when it comes to photography. You gotta check out her work, very talented! She has a show coming up, follow her on social media to check it out!
https://gillianmitreuter.com/

NOSTALGIA

No one will forget

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